Trauma is defined as anything that overwhelms a person’s ability to cope, at any given time. This ranges across a wide spectrum of lived experiences including unprocessed emotional and physical traumas, unmet needs during formative years, internalized systemic and cultural beliefs, and intergenerational trauma.
When an emotion or circumstance is too painful for us to hold, it overwhelms our ability to cope. The most common response to this is dissociation; a part of us fragments or splits off in order to protect our well-being. If we are unable, for whatever reason, to process and integrate our painful experiences after the threat has passed, this energy gets trapped in our body and energy field creating blockages and taking up space, displacing and pushing us out of our body. This displacement of self limits our connection to the felt senses in our body and the ability to stay centered in reality without applying the lens of our non-integrated experiences. In short, whatever coping mechanism kept us safe at one time, if left unexamined, will turn into limiting self beliefs once the danger has passed.
Neurologically and spiritually speaking, when we fragment ourselves in this way, the part of our self we disengage becomes trapped in the time and space of that trauma. While this is still a part of us, it is no longer connected or embodied. Since our fragmented part operates from a place of wounding, it remains on overdrive; hyper alert and always looking for the next potential threat. Not only is this exhausting, it further divides the fragmented self as that disconnected part is unable to take in and process new information. In short, preventing us from growing and developing. This work shows us there is never a time when we are broken, damaged or not whole, only dis-integrated
Therapeutic dialoging + Shadow Work
My approach to this work incorporates a series of questions that lead you to your own understanding of why certain formative moments in your life have created current limiting patterns. This work teaches you how to hold space for these core wounds not by re-experiencing them but by experiencing yourself in relationship to them in the present moment and by accessing the higher self to find out what this soul part needs in order be reintegrated.
I use mindfulness techniques to explore how emotions show up in your body as a way to determine the deeper core organizing thought patterns which motivate your towards fight/flight/freeze/fawn reactions. Identifying these patterns as they relate to the body means your don't have to relive the story, instead, you learn to become the observer to the self as we learn together what works best for you and what self-care activities help reaffirm your choices.
Mindfulness can be described as the state of mind of accepting present moment without bias or judgement and the non-attachment to present moment, be it positive or negative. It's permission of the flowing nature of each moment, allowing thoughts, sensations, feelings, expressions to shift without feeling the need to grasp onto them. It takes a lot of effort to chase a fleeting moment and, in truth, is impossible to force it into a state of permanence. Mindfulness grants us the ability to find grounded presence in ourselves as the changing tides of life float around us.
This work teaches you to become the observer of your own mind instead of operating from a place of wounding. Through these techniques you will be able to integrate the experiences of mind, body, emotions, behaviors, and spirit by learning to name and understand what has happened, how to release internalized shame and guilt, and embody soul fragments.
I believe you already have all the answers you need. You are already a healthy, whole person. My role is simply to make space for you to connect with your deeper self and all the inherent wisdom within you and within Nature. During our work togethe, you can expect to be held in safe and sacred space. I view you as a whole and healthy person and work intuitively to help you tap into inherent inner truths and deeper knowing.